Another Monday, another prolonged accusation of men accusing other men of being on a television show for fame rather than love. If it wasn’t clear where I stand on these types of accusations, let me make it clear: I don’t care why these men (or women) are on this show. I personally tune in every Monday for drama and mess. I love mess and this episode, was messy. I loved it.
I also believe that a majority of contestants who go on any reality show, even one purported to be about finding love, are actually probably going to gain some kind of fame. Whether it’s more Instagram followers, free marketing of a their business, or service they offer, most contestants are not quitting their jobs just to have a one in 30 chance of falling in love and getting engaged/married. Especially when this franchise doesn’t even have that good of a track record when it comes to that sort of thing.
So, given my opinion on that, you probably already know know where I stand on this whole Thomas situation: to me, it’s blown out of proportion. But let’s get into the episode, I’ll unpack that later.
Okay, I would like to go back to two weeks ago when I said these men mostly seemed boring and that their ABC photos made them look only moderately attractive. Because this week, these motherfuckers annoyed me. Two things we need to do after this episode: First, we need to get Katie better clothes, then we need to get rid of Karl.
First we get Katie walking through a dusty field in Old Navy’s finest cropped hoodie. Cary Fetman normally does not miss, but he and team are doing Katie so dirty this season. None of her outfits are very flattering and she doesn’t seem confident in them, which doesn’t help.
Anyway, we’re reminded again that Katie is here to find a husband and she is really not interested in men who are here “for the wrong reasons.” But can we unpack that for a second? What is considered “for the wrong reasons”? Every single person cast on this show willingly spoke to casting producers, and jumped through a lot of hoops to be on a television show. Isn’t it fair to say that no one is going on this show with completely pure intentions? At the very least, all the men and Katie willingly said yes to being on national TV and potentially falling in love. Kinda seems like paying for super likes on Tinder would be easier, but I haven’t dated in half a decade, so what do I know🤷🏾♀️.
Well, Bachelor Nation, our beloved show is finally back on our television screens and I am psyched! But the first episode left me with some questions: Were these guys really excited Katie was the Bachelorette, or is that just a line? What is the obsession these men have with capri slacks? Is Katie sex positive, or is she just a grown ass woman that knows how to communicate effectively about sex? And why were all the men sweating!?
Before we met the men, we had to be reminded that Katie is the quirky girl next door, that likes to talk about (and presumably have) sex. It feels like the producers really want us to believe that Katie is an all American girl that is totally normal and relatable. And I’m sure for the mostly white women who watch this show, she is. I don’t think we need her awkwardly looking at the camera when she shouldn’t be to prove that.
But I digress, we also learn that her parents weren’t together growing up and she felt like she never saw examples of a real relationship/marriage, which I imagine will be a theme that comes out as she eliminates more men.
I enjoyed this premiere, I’d go as far to say it’s my favorite since I began watching this show (Rachel’s season). The men seemed genuine, Katie made me believe that she’s in this “for the right reasons,” and Kaitlyn and Tayshia were a nice surprise.